I started to title this post “Have Great ‘Relations’ in Marriage.” But, for the sake of not offending or embarrassing anyone I titled it, “Make Love Great.” Hallelujah!

Song Of Solomon

I am studying the Song of Solomon in my Charis Bible College course, Old Testament Survey IV, Lesson 3. I highly recommend husbands and wives read the Song of Solomon/Songs together regardless of where you are spiritually or romantically. Don’t be religious and have fun with it.

In other words, guys study how King Solomon treats his bride. Ladies, study how the Shulamite talks about herself and her husband. There is no correcting on either part and there is no spiteful backbiting. Only making great love!

Talk about it, and ask each other questions! “How would it make you feel if I said… or did…?” If your spouse is a mature Christian, you can have deeper more intimate conversations (Proverbs 9:9). If your spouse is not a mature Christian, you will be ripped to shreds (Matthew 7:6). And if you are not abiding in the Lord, you will want to heed Jesus’ instructions in Matthew 7:1-5 about that too.

Women Want to “Make Great Love” Too

The statement that men want to be one flesh with their wives physically more than women do is a myth straight from the pit of hell! 1 Thessalonians 5:23 tells us that we are three-part beings just like our Creator. I think “one flesh” is specifically talking about one thing. No two people should get as close physically as a husband and wife. No other person should get as close to you in any other way either. Never allow that ever! No excuses. Unless you want a difficult marriage.

That is according to my understanding of Paul’s teaching in 1 Corinthians 7:2-17. Paul is addressing the Corinthians’ question that is stated in 1 Corinthians 7:1). I don’t put as much emphasis on what the world says or what others in the church say as I do Jesus’ Words and the teachings of the disciples in the Bible.

I hope that you don’t put as much emphasis on my writings/teachings either. Jesus’ Words will not pass away. If you get anything from me, I hope it is a desire to know Him more (John 17:3).

Heaven and earth shall pass away, but my words shall not pass away. – Mat 24:35 KJV
Heaven and earth shall pass away: but my words shall not pass away. – Mar 13:31 KJV
Heaven and earth shall pass away: but my words shall not pass away. – Luk 21:33 KJV

Jesus speaking!

Our Father, give us a hunger and thirst for your Word, and open our understanding. We believe that you hear us and that we receive. We know this is Your Will! Hallelujah! Amen.

How To Have Life Eternal

Don’t Be a Hypocrite

I am only pasting the following verses from Ephesians 5 here at this time. But, the very good point that I want to make to both spouses is: If you are not fully submitted to and obeying Ephesians 5:1-21 yourself, don’t, for the love of God and all things good, expect your spouse to love or submit to you as our Lord Jesus.

That is straight-up hypocrisy that will destroy every relationship you hold dear and especially your spouse!

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. – Eph 5:22 KJV
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. – Eph 5:23 KJV
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing. – Eph 5:24 KJV
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; – Eph 5:25 KJV
That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, – Eph 5:26 KJV
That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. – Eph 5:27 KJV
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. – Eph 5:28 KJV

Jesus fully submitted Himself to God even unto death, and He gave His very life for His bride. He did this as an example, but He did it as our substitute! If He asks you to do either (unto martyrdom), He WILL give you the courage and the desire (Psalm 37:4). You never have to be afraid to humble yourselves and make love great (Revelation 12:11).

Hypocrites Defined

Get Sick of False Doctrine

Don’t listen to false doctrine. And then expect your spouse to be able to uphold your expectations. Marriage is not hard unless you claim to know God with your mouth. If you read the Word and study so that you can tell everyone else how to obey while you make excuses about why you can’t or won’t, you are a hypocrite. I know! Because I have to repent of my own hypocrisy more often than I care to admit!

Jesus already knows and has provided forgiveness for us and the whole world! Hallelujah!

I have heard of great ministers of God who caught hell from their wives at home. I have never heard one of them say, “Happy wife, happy life!” Husbands can be just as hellish. We ALL can (1 John 1:6-10).

The marriage classes or programs that are floating around in the church make me sick. I know they make Jesus sick too (Revelation 3:16). I have not watched or listened to all of them so don’t get offended (John 16:1-4). When I publish all of my teachings on marriage, they won’t be perfect in my eyes or anyone else’s either. Hallelujah!

Make Great Love in Marriage!

I will definitely be writing more about this as time permits. But, enjoy your spouse and stop trying to fix them. This goes for men and women. Are we different? Yes! But only in the very best ways. Is it good to study love languages and other knowledge and wisdom? Absolutely. Obeying God’s commandments and the teachings in the New Testament about how to treat other people is how you make great love in marriage. It is also how you love and submit to all of your brothers and sisters in the body of Christ (Ephesians 5:21, John 13:35).

Studying and obeying the Words of Jesus and His disciples is how you have the life more abundant that Jesus has for you (John 10:10). He is for you!

You Will Want To know Him! Hallelujah!